In our house the boys have responsibilities. I don't like to use the word chores. It has such a negative connotation to it. If you offer responsibilities, this in turn provides your child with a sense of "they need me". Following the previous post, if you set this up in a way for them to take a leadership role and want to please you, it will make these tasks enjoyable to them.
Rewarding them will be totally up to you. Our "reward" at the end of the day is a set of quarters (savings account money really). The only way they can earn these quarters is by following directions, being kind, following the rules at school and home and getting their responsibilities finished for that day. That may sound like a task order, but in reality doesn't it seem like a given for the kids to be successful in these? I want to point out that we make sure that everyday is a fresh slate. We never take their reward away for more than a day. This will lose other privileges for big transgressions, but the reward is earned. Like you're paycheck.
I'll leave you with setting appropriate boundaries and limits are key to a smooth day.
Use this great chart for age appropriate responsibilities. We use them and I pass them to my families that I see as a parent educator. They really are simple and direct.
Have your child help decide which and when these get done too! If they are involved on the decision process they will want to take ownership for those decision agreed upon.
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